The Date You Need this Valentine’s Day

As I write this, I’m on a date.

It’s a cozy weeknight, and I’m at one of my favorite local cafes, sitting at a table with a nice salad and a glass of wine.

My husband is home with the kids.

So who is in the chair across from me?

No one.

That’s right. I’m on a date with myself.

We’re very serious.

And here we are having some quality time together – in a real restaurant. Truly removed from the day-to-day of my routine.

You know, when I was younger, I viewed restaurants as social places.

I would see someone at a table with just one place setting, and would feel a tinge of sadness in my heart for them.

Don’t they have someone to eat with? Are they lonely?

Then fast forward…I got married and had kids.

And dinners at our house were a nightly Cirque de Soleil.

You know what I’m saying.

I began to think about those Tables for One from a different perspective, and how nice it must be to just sit and have a quiet meal. To enjoy a peaceful dinner from time to time and just…be.

Your date night might not be at a cafe having a salad and a glass of wine.

Yours might be going to that art exhibit you can’t convince anyone to see with you.

Or that movie you’re too embarrassed to admit you’d really like to see.

Because taking yourself on a date night means no compromises.

It means doing something you really want to do – honoring your passions and interests.

We spend so much time honoring others – in our roles as daughters and sisters and friends and wives and mothers and business owners – and guess who you’ve been neglecting all along?

You know where I’m going with this.

Date yourself. Give it a try. You might just learn something new about each other.

Want to talk about date night options? It’s all part of a bigger conversation about YOU. Set up some time to chat with a member of my Brilliant Balance team here.

 

 

 

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